Yearning to be a father and being a father are two very different feelings. The yearning feeling is a gaping hole that only a child can fill. Whereas, being a father is described only as a miracle.
Enduring 7 tumultuous years as the husband of an infertile woman is something I never wish upon my worst enemy. To invest $100k+ of cold hard cash in a process known by three letters, IVF with no guarantee of a child. Again, unimaginable. Impossible even if someone were tell me at the beginning of the journey it would happen.
Alright, this is a topic most men, fertile or not, hate to talk about. In some respects it may be even taboo to bring this up, a man's inability to produce sperm that is. Not me. I aim to shed light on this topic.
I didn't always think like this. It took a journey through infertility to learn that males (me) contribute up to 50% of the problem trying to conceive. Pretty daunting statistics that I'm sure most men hardly know.
When I met my wife as a twenty something male, the thought of kids never crossed my mind. I was too busy trying to make ends meet. Not only that I assumed having kids was a no-brainer when the time to have them came about.
Were you volun-told to join the infertile fraternity and/or sorority? Did the leaders of both groups fail to tell you how much the membership was?
I'm making light of fertility costs but really, the cost to carry out a procedure like In Vitro Fertilization (IVF), ICSI or IUI is like buying a luxury car. For some, it's equivalent to buying a small home.
Infertility is an epidemic. Today, more women and men alike experience the daunting task of not being able to conceive naturally. They're told for some odd reason they won't or can't have kids. Doctors make their best guess as to why but the damage is already done.